Sunday, 11 October 2020



An announcement is made by the Air-Hostess 

“ Should there be a drop in cabin pressure, oxygen masks will drop down from above your seat. If you are traveling with children, make sure that your own mask is on first before helping your children”.

How selfish of her to say that you ignore your dear child’s safety and think of ourselves?

Surely, every parent would be anxious to secure their child’s safety first.


NO. Not at all.  The Air Hostess does not mean ignoring your child’s safety. What she intends to mean is that FIRST YOU PROTECT YOURSELF SO THAT YOU ARE IN A GOOD SHAPE TO PROTECT YOUR CHILD

What they mean is that only when you are in your best physical shape, you can help your dear child.

But without you putting on the mask yourself, you may struggle for air and could become unconscious and you would be physically incapable of putting the mask on your child. Obviously, you cannot pour from an empty cup! In fact, you could well end up being in need of help yourself!


Putting the mask on yourself first doesn't mean you don't care about others. It means you're smart enough to know you can't help others if you don't help yourself first.


To be a good parent, you need to take care of yourself so that you can have the physical and emotional energy to take care of your family.”

Michelle Obama



Similarly, when it comes to Financial Independence, you need to help yourself first by investing for your own retirement. First, you can help others only if your future is secured.

Of course, You are indeed working/earning for your family and yes, your family means the World to you.
And yes, education for your dear is absolutely critical.

But so should be your Retirement!

In a recent survey by MONEY and Barnes & Noble College, 41% of US parents said they sacrificed their retirement savings so they could pay for their kids’ college. That’s not a good financial strategy.

A similar survey in India may well reveal similar numbers.

But is also indeed an undeniable fact that you can get a loan for your Child’s education but not for your retirement.
Anytime you invest/deal in money, ensure that it does not hinder your own Financial Goals and actually compliments it.  Now even if a loan for retirement was indeed available (It may be in the future, you never know) but wouldn’t it be wise for your young earning child to pay THEIR loan rather than a retired non-earning YOU paying from your retirement Kitty!

Moreover, your child EARNING due to that Management Degree is not guaranteed but your RETIRING IS GUARANTEED!


Save yourself from both the emotional and financial stress post retirement by focusing on YOUR RETIREMENT KITTY now.

Prioritywise, YOUR RETIREMENT should come right at the top, yes, even above your child’s education!

Indians have tended to rely heavily on their children post Retirement. The unwritten agreement seems to be “I promise to leave my wealth to you in return for care and financial support in my old age”. Joint families used to instill a sense of financial security but as the young migrate and nuclear families are becoming the order of the day….You having to spend your Retirement Days all with yourself with no support from children is a sad reality and has to faced with no escape.


When it comes to Your Retirement, it is indeed a good thing to be SELFISH !!

BTW, this applies not just to your Finances, but to even your Health (Mental and Physical).

Don’t slog without a break struggling with depression. Focus on your growth, your happiness first and then help others become healthy, physically, mentally and financially.

Your dear child can always get help from scholarships, study jobs, grants, and if nothing works, EDUCATION LOANS. 

Remember, our Life span is growing longer and longer. Hence the Retirement Years (non-earning years) are also getting longer and hence the Retirement Kitty needs to be bigger and you cannot afford to be dependent on your dear children who will have their own financial challenges burdening them.

Your dear child’s college life could be about 5 years and your Retirement could be in excess of 25 years !!



Make sure that your Retirement Kitty is good enough to sustain your expenses (and unforeseen health bills) for all those years. Remember, post retirement, your retirement fund cannot afford to play in Equity Small caps and similar high-risk high return assets and could thus be generating sub-par returns.



As Dave Ramsey says, “Only the strong can help the weak.” 

When your financial position is indeed stable and a retirement investment plan is in perfect place, go ahead and even plan for a super luxury education for your child and a Marriage in a Swiss Castle!

So, the priority above your dear child’s Education fund should always be YOUR RETIREMENT FUND.


Srikanth Matrubai




   You are strongly encouraged to consult your financial planner before making any decision regarding this investment. The views expressed here is the author's personal views and should not be intrepresented as a recommendation to invest/avoid.
Srikanth Matrubai Author of the Amazon Best Seller DON'T RETIRE RICH
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1 comment:

  1. Love this, a great reminder that you cannot pour from an empty cup. You are doing wonders to the world by being selfish!



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